I’ve learned a lot about mindset in my now almost 50 years on this planet. In my twenties I believe I was in a mindset of envy and greed. My parents were very successful, and I thought I was somehow owed success. I wanted it all now. I was also under the huge misconception that stuff = success. I look back now and realize that I wasted a lot of time during those years worrying about things that just don’t matter. I was in a race with myself that I could never win.
The only good thing about a mindset of envy is it can motivate you. This, at least, was true for me. By age 25 I had a BA in Communications, purchased my first home, had two businesses and 8 rental properties. I’m not even sure who I was trying to impress. As you can imagine, I couldn’t manage this level of business so fast at such a young age. My businesses failed and I sold the rental properties. The great thing about all of this is I learned so much, and was able to completely change my mindset.
In my mid thirties after some success in the outside sales profession, I shifted to a true business mindset with a dash of dreamer mindset: always thinking big. This is what is so great about mindset: you can change it at any time if you are willing to acknowledge where you are. This sometimes comes with age and life experience. One of the advantages to the business mindset it is you can look at every decision from a business perspective. This works great for me, but I also felt as if I was the CEO of my family. It was my responsibility to make the income stretch as far as possible. This included getting out of debt, clipping coupons and using mobile applications to save money. I also created a budget. It is mind blowing how much money you can waste if you don’t have a budget and keep detailed records.
Now in my late forties I still have a business mindset as I run a very successful security and traffic safety company, but I now come from a mindset of gratitude. My grandfather used to always say, “In life you get what you give.” This is true on so many levels. When you change your mindset and look at what you must be grateful for rather than what you are lacking, your world will change. In 2017 I was able to start a nonprofit 501c3 Blue Family. We provide scholarships and financial assistance to families of law enforcement officers. It feels great to be able to give back, however you don’t have to start a nonprofit to live in a mindset of gratitude. It also doesn’t take money. A life of gratitude will make you a happier human; and you will make more of the precious time you have on this earth.
What mindset are you living in today?